When most people think about setting limits with someone they love, love is not the first word that comes to mind. Limits feel like distance. Like rejection. Like choosing yourself over the relationship. For many people, the idea of telling a loved one what they...
If you love someone who is struggling with addiction or in early recovery, you have probably tried everything. You have researched treatment options, moved their substances, pleaded, bargained, given ultimatums, taken them back after broken promises, and stayed up too many nights wondering what more...
Most of us have been taught, implicitly or explicitly, that difficult emotions are problems to be solved. Sadness should be pushed through. Anxiety should be managed. Anger should be controlled. Grief should run its course and then be done. And if you cannot seem to...
Every unhealthy coping strategy started as a solution. That is not a comfortable thing to sit with, but it is important. The behaviors people most criticize themselves for, drinking to unwind, shutting down in conflict, staying relentlessly busy, seeking reassurance, numbing out with screens or...